Why Worry?

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Howdy folks! It’s been a while since I’ve posted on this blog as I’ve been focusing more on my Step-Dad Diary site (www.stepdaddiary.com) which I hope you’ll take the time to check out.

Nevertheless, this topic has been on my heart recently so I thought I’d share as I’m sure many of you are in the same boat. The bottom line up front is that I’m a worrier! There are healthy levels of worry, I believe, but I think I walk the thin line of unhealthy worry.

With another child on the way I worry that I will be able to provide for my newborn throughout his years as have for my other biological son and two Step-Children (which I gladly do as their fathers don’t really step up to the plate all the time.)  I worry that my job might be gone tomorrow (which it always could as I manage a non-profit,) or that my wife and I won’t continue to grow old together and enjoy each other like we do now.

Financially, I know that we can make it one way or another through military retirement, taking on extra jobs if need be or whatever but those realistic facts don’t always sink in when I wish they would would.  Rather, I find myself letting negative thoughts or worst-case scenarios take control of my thoughts and when they take control of my thoughts they often take control of my mood which resinates throughout the home or everyone around me.

I try my best at all times to remain positive but we all get into a slump.  It’s when we get into that slump or “bad place” that we need to count on our friends, spouses, or loved ones to give us a little pat on the back and just say “you know what man, everything is going to be alright!”

It’s  so simple to do and we should look for others experiencing the same types of thoughts and support them.  In supporting them, it turns out to be a win-win situation in that we start to believe in ourselves as well.

Even writing about it, as I am clearly doing here, makes me feel better even though I doubt it will be seen by many.  Perhaps one person will be able to read it, relate, and know that things are always going to be fine.

Worrying does no good, what will be will be.  We can only be proactive and make the best decisions we think we can at any given time. If something unexpected bad happens we’ll deal with it when the time comes.

Wow…it’s nice to be able to have a venue to share this stuff.  I hope you always focus on the good and choose not to worry when there’s really nothing you can do about what MIGHT happen down the road!

In the meantime, take good care!worry


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“Man should not consider his material possession his own, but as common to all, so as to share them without hesitation when others are in need.” – Thomas Aquinas

While this quote focuses on material possessions, I think the same holds true with the “possession of knowledge” or lessons learned.  To that end, through my own trials and tribulations I have found that internal hardships, battles within one’s self, can be devastating.  In my case they have lead me to darker places than I would ever wish on my own enemy.  The great news is that they didn’t last!

Finding solace and peace in a healthy manner brought me from the depths of my own low thoughts and actions.  Sure, it took a while to find exactly what motivated me to rise up and move forward with a positive attitude (or like my 4th Grade teacher always said a “P.M.A.”; Positive Mental Attitude) but when I found what worked for me every aspect of my life changed.  I found running to be a great release of negative thoughts and an awesome energizer all-round, quotations to be inspiring, drawing to be a great hobby I could take anywhere, etc… Finally, I found that finding a way to help others helped me also. 

As a disabled Veteran, finding and ultimately managing a non-profit Veteran organization has been the best reward in my life.  Serving at least one person a day makes waking up and coming to work exciting for me.  Though there are some rough days, and I still have to manage my own private affairs, I know I will be able to sleep soundly and wake up the next morning looking at myself in the mirror without any regrets.

Life has and will always be a challenge.  But that’s just life…if it were too simple everything would eventually get boring.  Each of us has the capability to take on a challenge and complete it successfully, and if the first attempt at conquering an immediate challenge doesn’t work, that’s when we go back and try again using the lessons we learned from the first attempt!

Accept the challenge…and conquer it! And like I always say; “If you can’t go it alone, just ask a true friend for help! They won’t let you down!”

I wish each of you a challenging but rewarding day!

~ Brett

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