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“Juggling work and parental responsibilities is no easy task, but I’m trying my  best and just like everything else there are good days and there are bad days.” – Ali Landry

There are so many things going on from day to day between family, work, obligations, hobbies, etc…that it’s often hard to manage everything at once.  I always hear that I need to set a list of priorities and work from there but that it difficult in itself.  For example; Quality time with my Kids and family need to be of the highest priority but how can I put that above going to work and fulfilling the needs of my job at the highest level possible.

Sometimes, that’s easy as the Kids are gone and I can focus solely on work (which sometimes requires me to develop presentations, attend functions, etc… on weekends) but that’s okay because the Kids may be gone, my Wife at work and me home alone to focus.  Other times that’s not as easy as I may have focus my efforts on the same types of task while my Kids are home looking for some quality time and attention. 

The bottom line is that it’s doable.  Doable in terms of “do what you can when you can do it!” Maybe I don’t have time to engage in my hobbies one day or week but that’s okay, there will be time at some point.  I had plenty of “free” time this weekend to do just that but I was feeling under the weather with a sore throat and sinus pain (seems to be going around recently…especially in my home!) That’s just life…and I couldn’t foresee that coming but it did and I dealt with it.  So rather than sit and bask in my facial misery, I watched a couple movies with the kids and even went so far as to start watching episodes of “Once Upon a Time” with my wife and Step-Daughter…pretty girly fairy tale series but we all seemed to enjoy it  nevertheless.  This isn’t our normal genre of flicks but we all kinda got into it and really enjoyed both the series on Netflix and the time we were spending together.  Zack was a little too “cool” to watch it with us but that’s understandable as he is 14 years old and a boy so I can’t blame him in the least.

There’s always so much going on in our home on a daily basis, especially during the week between dance classes, football practice and games, work, doctors’ appointments, household chores, etc…that it really is difficult to set a list of priorities.  It really does take some mastery of juggling these things but above all, working as a team with Lisa to make it all happen is essential.

Perhaps setting a list of priorities at the beginning of each day is more beneficial than trying to set an ongoing list that stands firm.  Values are something that don’t have change such as service, ethics, manners, God, love, etc… but maybe setting a daily priority task is better than trying to set a priority task and leaving it alone.  Maybe I can set a list of priorities for a few days or even a week but they might need some tweaking or adjusting as the time goes by…we’ll see because that’s what I am going to try and do! 

I know one “priority” that doesn’t require me juggling, just requires me to ease up a bit (as I know I’ve said before) in my own home is to stop being so “knit-picky”…that’s really not going over so well and I know I should save that sort of stuff for when I really need to “bust it out” otherwise it might not be quite as effective!

Anyway, happy “Mastering” your juggling Step-Dads! Let me know how it all works out for you or if you have any advice for The Step-Dad in training! Hit me at brett@stepdaddiary.com .

 I’ve been doing my best to keep the spam emails and comments down so I moderate them all before they’re posted but rest assured…if something good comes along, I’ll be sure to re-post or share accordingly!

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Share the Load!

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“It’s not the load that breaks you down, it’s the way you carry it.” – Lena Horne

It’s that the truth! Lean over to pick up 25 pounds and you just might hurt your back to a great degree. If you squat, grab that same load, and stand straight you then you’ll likely end up with no problems at all. Funny how that all works!

The bottom line is that it’s not necessarily the task at hand that can wear you out either physically or mentally, but how you choose to either handle or in some cases, not handle it!

We all have burdens, trials, tasks, and otherwise that we are either responsible for on a daily basis or that may pop up out of the blue and strike us from the blind side. Often times we take these battles full on or without asking for help and overwhelm ourselves to the extent that we feel lost or even helpless. We sometimes tend to carry with us unnecessary weight that we just don’t need or can handle alone.

Why not stop, see what’s wearing on us or beating us down, think of alternate means of addressing the issue at hand, ask for help when we need it and break adversities down into small, more manageable tasks or “chunks”…smaller more “light” loads seems to be a great way to carry the “bigger” heavier and potentially damaging load or burden you may be facing.

For example, maybe you’re practicing or preparing for a 10 mile run. In the past the furthest you’ve run without stopping may have been 5 miles. So, rather than go straight from 5 to 10 miles (which you would likely not be able to accomplish with ease) you decide to start early and build your stamina 1.5 miles at a time. You run 5 miles for a while…kick it up a notch to 6.5 miles for a couple runs, then 8…then 9.5 or even 10 and keep on going.

You get the point. Don’t be overwhelmed by looking at a single task without seeing how you can break it down into more small, manageable tasks that won’t be such of a trial. I have found that in trying to manage one large task that I might fail in the accomplishment of that mission, at least the first time, and though I like to get back up and try again it was a little disheartening to fail the first time.

Over time I have become unashamed to ask for help of take small steps to get a job done…sort of the “crawl, walk, run” theme we so often hear about and it seems to work out great!

Give it a shot! Just a thought!

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When Enough is Enough!!!

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“When it’s time for me to walk away from something, I walk away from it. My mind, my body, my conscience tell me that enough is enough.” – Jerry West

Knowing when to walk away from something is vitally important to anyone’s personal welfare, and sometimes the welfare of the people with who they work, collaborate, team with or even with whom they dream.

Walking away might include walking away from a job, a person, a family, a situation, an organization that may have intentions not aligned with yours, etc…but sometime you just have to do it.  It might not be easy and you might endure some internal turmoil from making the decision but my thought is that if you honestly feel that something isn’t good for you in general than there is no compromise, you just have to do it.  In saying that, it’s also important to ensure that you do as little damage to others’ hopes and motivations along the way because they might not have the same thoughts as you, but that’s okay.

You have to do what is best for you.  If you’re not happy and improving yourself when you can then no one can change that but you.  If I am doing something day in and day out or surrounding myself with bad “vibes” on a consistent basis I’m clearly responsible for letting that happen, no one else..

Sometime decisions that seem so right are often very hard to follow through with.  I have been guilty of putting myself in uncomfortable circumstances for the sake of not wanting to let others down but have ultimately let myself down in the process.  I try not to do that these days and feel good about it.

When I choose to walk away from something I know it’s right because I can feel it in my mind, body and soul.  Not only that but I can sleep well at night and look at myself proudly in the morning!

Have a great day and BE STRONG!

~Brett

Dreaming…the Free Gift!

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“You are never too old to set a new goal or to dream a new dream.” – C. S. Lewis

Nope, you’re never too old to do just about anything. Even as I approach what is seemingly the young age of 36, I have have many times had reservations of beginning something new. Perhaps out of fear of failure or not knowing what it will be like to move out of my current “comfort zone.”

Recent news regarding potential changes in my own professional career have me doing a lot of thinking, wondering, guessing, and even worse, worrying about what might transpire regarding my future. When I sat back and continued to worry I remembered the advice I had always given to others but failed to incorporate into my own life…worrying is not going to change the end result, action is what is going to, and will, change things. I have wealth in ability, gifts, talents, loved ones, family and friends that will always have my back and ensure that I will never stray from the path to success. My belief is that WE ALL have these gifts and have to remember this truth at all times, especially when we think times are in turmoil or have the potential to get rough.

Keep faith in yourself and in those around you and know that you will not ever fail to accomplish your goal or dream as long as you believe and take personal responsibility and action in your life. Never sell yourself short or discount the greatness and untapped potential that lays within you.

Today, and everyday, I have faith that we are all destined to create greatness in ourselves and in the lives of others! We’re not too old!

~Brett

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Don’t Talk About It!

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“The way to get started is to quit talking and begin doing.” – Walt Disney

Most of us have heard the saying “Don’t talk about it, be about it!” That’s precisely what we’re talking about here! How are you ever going to get anything accomplished if you spend the majority of you time talking about what you’re going to do instead of just getting up and doing it?

The worst part about talking too much about what you’d like to accomplish (unless you’re seeking legitimate advice) rather than just giving it a shot is that you can start leading to self-defeating thoughts or an “I can’t do it attitude.” Who needs that? We already have enough outside forces that often hinder even our greatest goals or intentions and manifesting just more can’t help at all.

What we have is the ability to “do” and do whatever it takes to reach our positive end-state, accomplish our dreams, reach our goals and help others do the same. I have a serious suspicion that we will all achieve goals higher than we had ever intended and be able to help others do the same!

I’m excited for all of us and the changes we can make. I hope you are too…enthusiasm is contagious so spread it everywhere you go. For now though; “The way to get get started is to quit talking and begin doing.”

Lets Do This!!!
~ Brett

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