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Be Done With It!

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calmnewdayFinish each day and be done with it, you have done what you could. Some blunders and absurdities have crept in; Forget them as soon as you can. Tomorrow is a new day and you will begin it serenely and with too high a confidence to be encumbered by your old nonsense!” ~ Emerson

This seems to fit my current days perfectly and helps to provide me with peace of mind of sorts each night…literally. I read this phrase each night before bed (and sometimes throughout the day) and I have been doing so for years.

At some point in time it just became routine that I read these few words and I honestly didn’t think too much about what once meant so much to me but lately I have started to take the time to read, analyze what may have gone wrong throughout the day and realize that the day to come has nothing but opportunities waiting for me.

My life has been very hectic over the past year with the passing of my 15 year-old step son, birth of my new boy, Reid, gaining more custody of my other biological son who is just about 8 and trying to stay in the good but respected graces  of my step-daughter who is reaching that tough “tweenie” age.  Oh, I forget to mention having to move houses due to the memories left in the old house where we lost my step-son and now facing potential surgery on my lower back which I have tried to avoid for well over a year.

With all those things going on I feel as if I have lost sight what is important in this crazy life.  I had been focused on work, managing money (sort of), myself (as in selfishness) and almost totally disregarding what my immediate family (wife and kids) and confidents needed from me. 

I’ve stepped back a little to think about those strong words from R.W. Emerson I read each day and have concluded that yes, something “wrong” or nonsensical happens on a daily basis but it is certainly not the end of the world.  I need to try and leave those hiccups behind me and move forward.  They (whoever “they” is) say that you can’t move forward if you’re always focusing on the past and that’s the truth.

I have a responsibility to forget the absurdities that have taken place each day and be there for my family, friends, and myself…physically and mentally.  I need to nurture relationships (such as with my wife and kids) and take care of my health so I can grow old in a healthy way and be a role model for my young children as I am certainly not the youngest Father of an 8 month old baby!  I don’t need to worry about how many thousands of dollars are in a bank account or mutual fund I haven’t looked at in years, I don’t need to worry about being “popular” among the big-shots of the area.  I need to be popular with my loved ones because at the end of my life they are going to be ones whom I have made a true impact on.

I could go on and on about this topic all day but I realize that I’m getting quickly of track.  The bottom line is that I need to focus on each day and be the best me I can be.  I need to embody and expose the values I hold dear and share them with my loved ones and not get side-tracked with “material” or unimportant things even if I did the day before. 

Each day is fresh and new and I can make it what I want it to be regardless of anything that crept in the day prior.  I vow to begin doing that to the best of my ability.  I know I won’t be perfect and I will have days where I forget this truth but that’s life.  

For now, I’m in a good place and plan on staying there.  If I sway too far off track there’s always the next day to catch the right trail to happiness!

Be of Value

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“Try not to become a man of success but rather to become a man of value.” – Albert Einstein

To me, success in this sense is depicted as a personal venture…something to enrich your own life monetarily or otherwise without regard to others.

One of value is someone that brings change, radiates positivity and enriches not only himself but those around him. To me…that’s value! (And BTW, man and woman can be interchangeable in this matter!)

Happy Saturday!
~Brett

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Truth Be With You!

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“Be true to your work, your word, and your friend.” – Henry David Thoreau

What a great way to live and be able to look at yourself in the mirror each day knowing that you have nothing to hide, be ashamed of or lie about throughout your daily encounters or endeavors. The quote above seems so simple yet there are so many that find being true along these lines a struggle.  My thought is that if you can simply abide by the “law” of truth, especially to yourself, you can rest easily knowing that you are on the right path.

Being true to your work is difficult to a degree in that many people are out to find financial gain rather than doing work they truly believe in or feel drawn to doing.  Often times, finding that great paying job is done so at the expense of another.  Honing in on that young Soldier outside a military base with pay-day loans so they can come in and get money to pay their bills without fully understanding that they are going to be charged 45% interest on whatever they are given.  I, for one, couldn’t feel good about that regardless of how much money the job, or lie, is putting in my pocket. The great thing is no one has to do that…it’s a choice! You can choose do something you love and you can make a living by following your passion.  It might not be easy, but it can be done and we can all make it happen.  As I like to say, “You can take others along for the ride with you!” And that can make all the difference in the world.

Additionally, your word is your bond.  Once you compromise that, it’s very hard to regain faith and confidence in those deceived. I learned this at a young age, as most of us do, through little untruths to my parents…nothing devastating but it just showed me that once I told them something that wasn’t the COMPLETE truth, it was just as bad as not telling the truth at all.  Being true to your word is almost, if not, the most important thing I can do in life. I can’t work, have relationships, be trusted, or even left alone to accomplish a small task if people don’t have faith that I am going to do what I say I will.  I admit that I have inadvertently slipped here and there by perhaps missing a meeting or something along those lines but it was definitely not with mal intent and I was honest about my reason…if I over slept, I said so, if I forgot, I said so, etc….It’s not always what people wanted to hear but it was the truth and though it may have been uncomfortable to come clean, I knew I had to so that’s exactly what I did!

Friends…I make sure I choose my friends wisely and if their values aren’t aligned with mine that doesn’t mean we can’t talk, it just means they might not be the best choice for me to spend too much time with of put too much into what they have to say.  “Friend” is a term used very loosely…I have my Facebook friends whom I may or may not have ever been very close with but like(d) and am interested in seeing what is going on with them from time to time and then I have the other extreme where I can count on them to drop whatever it is they are doing and come to help out if I just say the word, and the same goes for them.  Friends are a gift, a true gift, and should always be treated as such.

I know this is a bit lengthy but I ran across this quote today (as I’m a quote guy in case you can’t tell) and it really spoke to me.  You may have a different outlook on the words of Henry D. Thoreau which is great.  My hope is that that you got as much out of this short sentence as I did and that you have a blessed day!

Be True!

~ Brett

 

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