Share the Load!

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“It’s not the load that breaks you down, it’s the way you carry it.” – Lena Horne

It’s that the truth! Lean over to pick up 25 pounds and you just might hurt your back to a great degree. If you squat, grab that same load, and stand straight you then you’ll likely end up with no problems at all. Funny how that all works!

The bottom line is that it’s not necessarily the task at hand that can wear you out either physically or mentally, but how you choose to either handle or in some cases, not handle it!

We all have burdens, trials, tasks, and otherwise that we are either responsible for on a daily basis or that may pop up out of the blue and strike us from the blind side. Often times we take these battles full on or without asking for help and overwhelm ourselves to the extent that we feel lost or even helpless. We sometimes tend to carry with us unnecessary weight that we just don’t need or can handle alone.

Why not stop, see what’s wearing on us or beating us down, think of alternate means of addressing the issue at hand, ask for help when we need it and break adversities down into small, more manageable tasks or “chunks”…smaller more “light” loads seems to be a great way to carry the “bigger” heavier and potentially damaging load or burden you may be facing.

For example, maybe you’re practicing or preparing for a 10 mile run. In the past the furthest you’ve run without stopping may have been 5 miles. So, rather than go straight from 5 to 10 miles (which you would likely not be able to accomplish with ease) you decide to start early and build your stamina 1.5 miles at a time. You run 5 miles for a while…kick it up a notch to 6.5 miles for a couple runs, then 8…then 9.5 or even 10 and keep on going.

You get the point. Don’t be overwhelmed by looking at a single task without seeing how you can break it down into more small, manageable tasks that won’t be such of a trial. I have found that in trying to manage one large task that I might fail in the accomplishment of that mission, at least the first time, and though I like to get back up and try again it was a little disheartening to fail the first time.

Over time I have become unashamed to ask for help of take small steps to get a job done…sort of the “crawl, walk, run” theme we so often hear about and it seems to work out great!

Give it a shot! Just a thought!



Make Your Days Count!

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“Don’t count the days, make the days count.”

So, I don’t spend too much time on Twitter but I checked it out and came across this quick Tweet that really got me thinking. I spend a heck of a lot of time counting down the days or even minutes until something that I am really not looking forward to IS going to transpire: the key word here being “IS!”

What’s going to happen is going to happen whether it be a meeting I’m not looking forward to or having to attend a social event I really don’t want to attend. Some things just can’t be avoided and I have personally found that many times these things aren’t nearly as painful as I imagine. The more time I think about these inevitable events, the worse I imagine they will be and the more time I have to anticipate the worst-case scenario. That’s no way to spend these days, hours, or even minutes.

If I am consistently focusing on the bad things that MAY or MAY NOT come then I am bound to miss out on all the great things that are happening around me, beside me, or even to me!

I don’t know why it took this simple little wake up quote (author unknown) of 8 words to get me to think about this but it sure worked so I’ll take it! If something bad is going to happen then it’s going to happen. Sure, if it’s avoidable than I’ll do what I can to ensure it doesn’t happen, otherwise I’ll let nature take it’s course but in the meantime I’ll choose to focus on the positive! And trust me, there is always something positive going on around me. It might be as simple as watching my cat play, going for a run, watching the kids play, etc…but there’s ALWAYS something. I just have to open my eyes to that and not focus on what IS going to transpire. I hope you can pull what you need to from those simple 8 words as well!

Have a great Sunday and take a look at all those great things around you!
~ Brett


The Brutal Teacher

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“Experience: that most brutal of teachers. But you learn, my God do you learn.” C. S. Lewis

Experience in my life has been in the form of both positive and negative situations. I have had the fortune of being blessed with many great things to include a great childhood, education, an awesome Son, Wife, two Step-Children and many great things while serving as an Officer in the Army for over a decade.

Throughout the course of all these great experiences and fortunes I have also had to endure many negative situations. Some were inevitable parts of life such as deaths of elderly family members, some deaths of friends who were killed in action while serving our country, and others where honestly self-induced evils which I would never wish on my worst enemy…needless to say my Son and Step-Kids

The great part is this though; I have learned (and continue to do so) from all my experiences, positive and negative, and they have formed me into the man I am today. Some might argue (especially my step-children when I tell them to clean their rooms) but I am quite happy with the me I have become. I have values, virtues, respect for others, and try to positively affect those with whom I come in contact. I want to inspire my Kids (all of them) to do the same but often have a difficult time doing so. Maybe it’s the way I came across or it could just be their age (which I hope is the main culprit!)

Every once in a while, okay often, I have to turn toward my wife and close friends to lift me up when times get rough, read inspirational books, spend some time engaging in relaxing hobbies (such as drawing), and that’s alright. I have learned through EXPERIENCE that these are some of the things I need to do to stay personally grounded. If I’m not grounded and in a good place mentally, then there is no chance for me to impact the kiddos in a positive manner.

I need to keep my head up and remember what I have learned up to this point. I know that I have a lot more to learn from “the most brutal of teachers” but I’m ready for it!

Bring it on, baby! 🙂

Be of Value

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“Try not to become a man of success but rather to become a man of value.” – Albert Einstein

To me, success in this sense is depicted as a personal venture…something to enrich your own life monetarily or otherwise without regard to others.

One of value is someone that brings change, radiates positivity and enriches not only himself but those around him. To me…that’s value! (And BTW, man and woman can be interchangeable in this matter!)

Happy Saturday!




What are YOU Proving?


“A witty saying proves nothing.” – Voltaire

Indeed it doesn’t! There are plenty of smart people who have accomplished or dare to accomplish nothing in life worth value. Maybe a witty saying makes someone feel great about themselves, their company, or seem intelligent.

Personally, I’d rather be surrounded by people who may not be able to say anything at all but can, and do, make positive changes in their life, the lives of others or their surrounds on a regular basis!

Again, “Don’t talk about it, be about it!”




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