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“Time flies. It’s up to you to be the navigator.” – Robert Orben

Yes indeed, time sure does fly by in so many ways!  It’s amazing to watch things change all around us, especially our Kids.  Sometimes we inadvertently miss crucial moments or dismiss the small things which prove just how old our Children are getting or what’s really going on in their lives, or even our own!

One small, but significant example is my little dance diva, Aleah, just got a new pair of girlie “Jordans!” Never in a million years would I have thought she would want anything of the sort or run around afterward saying “ Whaaat? Whaaat?” but it happened just before my eyes.  Now she looks like a cute little hip-hop dancer which she hated less than a year ago!  I’m still baffled as to how this transformation took place or what sparked this transformation but I’m good with it!

Luke now has a new iPod and is getting so technically savvy at the age of six that it’s amazing!  The other day I tried to FaceTime him but was unable to so I called his Mom.  She asked him if he had his wi-fi on apparently he didn’t which was the problem. So, he turned it on and we were able to chat “face-to-face.”  I asked him if he knew what wi-fi was and he explained it to me well and further explained that he turns it off and on depending on where he is and also ensures his Bluetooth is off to “conserve battery life.”  Who would have thought that a six year old guy would have known what he was explaining to me.  Heck, there are adults out there who don’t know some of that lingo.

Zack, the teen, knows a so much about many things, technically and otherwise (though he chooses not to use that knowledge from time to time) and seems to gain more knowledge each day.  He’s also growing like a bean sprout (which I’m hoping will cease soon before he eats us out of house and home ;-)  ) Nevertheless, he’s changing on a daily basis as well in so many different ways.

As my Kids’ grow and change I have to remember to allow them to change accordingly, become themselves, but also to steer then in the right direction.  Not in a militant fashion (unless it’s called for) but rather in a way that lets them know that what they choose to do now and the effort they devote to different things will ultimately help or undermine their future.  It’s up to them to choose what’s really important and what they want to focus on.

I am going to do my part to ensure they know and understand the “cost-benefit analysis” of what they choose to do and ensure they are doing at least the things they are supposed to do…get decent grades, be respectful, keep their word, etc…but in the long run they are going to who they want to be and do what they want to do…within reason.

My goal is to help guide their way.  The time sure is flying by and before they know it, they’ll be on their own wondering if they’ve made the right choices.  I will ensure they have a kit bag full of all the information and guidance I can possibly give them before that time!

My Son and Step-Kids deserve at least that much from me and I won’t let them down!

I welcome any and all thoughts you have on this subject!

The Brutal Teacher

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“Experience: that most brutal of teachers. But you learn, my God do you learn.” C. S. Lewis

Experience in my life has been in the form of both positive and negative situations. I have had the fortune of being blessed with many great things to include a great childhood, education, an awesome Son, Wife, two Step-Children and many great things while serving as an Officer in the Army for over a decade.

Throughout the course of all these great experiences and fortunes I have also had to endure many negative situations. Some were inevitable parts of life such as deaths of elderly family members, some deaths of friends who were killed in action while serving our country, and others where honestly self-induced evils which I would never wish on my worst enemy…needless to say my Son and Step-Kids

The great part is this though; I have learned (and continue to do so) from all my experiences, positive and negative, and they have formed me into the man I am today. Some might argue (especially my step-children when I tell them to clean their rooms) but I am quite happy with the me I have become. I have values, virtues, respect for others, and try to positively affect those with whom I come in contact. I want to inspire my Kids (all of them) to do the same but often have a difficult time doing so. Maybe it’s the way I came across or it could just be their age (which I hope is the main culprit!)

Every once in a while, okay often, I have to turn toward my wife and close friends to lift me up when times get rough, read inspirational books, spend some time engaging in relaxing hobbies (such as drawing), and that’s alright. I have learned through EXPERIENCE that these are some of the things I need to do to stay personally grounded. If I’m not grounded and in a good place mentally, then there is no chance for me to impact the kiddos in a positive manner.

I need to keep my head up and remember what I have learned up to this point. I know that I have a lot more to learn from “the most brutal of teachers” but I’m ready for it!

Bring it on, baby! 🙂

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